Sometimes things need to be broken before they can be fixed

Once I asked a friend, " Can you ever hate someone you have ever loved?" He told me, "You need to force yourself to hate the person for sometime to let that person go. You need to start listening to everything negative told about that person and most important is to start believing those things." 

 

It is not one of those deeply thought profound philosophy of life but a logical way to move on.  This goes for anyone and everyone whom we love in our lifetime. Friends, relatives, anyone. We may never be able to hate them but we definitely need to give them lowest order in our priority list. 

I always say hate is a very strong word.

 

We quite frequently use it without truly understanding what it symbolizes. I think hate is that state of mind or heart or feeling, which makes us happy when something very very unfortunate happens to the that person. Now just for a moment think of all those people you thought you hated and answer this question..."Would it make you Happy if one of them meets an accident or something worse?" I dont think there will be many we would want to go through with this. That is what hate is all about.  And no matter how much we think we are sadistic, it doesn't work that way. We may dislike a lot of people, but we rarely hate. Its just that we use it so frequently that forget how to distinguish between hate and dislike.

 

Similarly love is a very strong word. At times we confuse it with just liking someone or being fond of someone. These other categories- fond or liking keeps changing from time to time. But love is like an irreversible status. Once it happens, its done forever. Then no mater how hard we try we can never hate that person. It doesn't work that way. You can't love a person with all your heart one day and next day pretend as if he/she doesn't matter. What do we do then?

 

Sometime back I watched a movie in which it was possible to get a brain mapping done. This could remove all memories and traces of existence of any person we wanted to be deleted from our memory.

That would make life much easier…

 

Every time we love someone, something inside us changes. And when that person goes away we need to break down those things to get back to track. We need to become what we were before we met that person. It is somewhat like reverse engineering. Only I wish it were that easy...

Where are we...

Someone said, life is change and it’s change that we live everyday.
But it feels that I am stuck at some time in the past, while everyone moves ahead
Words that I heard somewhere in the past, feels like an old song forgotten.
The tune is still the same but its meaning lost in time
Places and images fresh in my mind are a haze everywhere else.
Meanings of simple musings have lost their relevance
Words feel fake, relationships worse
As if we exist together in different zones and different cultures.
Who are you sitting beside me?
A face I stared at for hours but still cant understand
Suddenly words are needed to fill silences,
And my voice to tell you wat is going on in my mind.
Distances are shortened but it takes a hundred thoughts to reach out
Like without realising we changed our lanes.
And now in this mesh around us, we are lost to one another.